You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.
I really enjoy tweeting via @realmugglemom and would do it even if nobody ever read my tweets (which may often actually be the case). I’m not hung up on how many “followers” I have (good thing!) but it is interesting to watch the numbers change. For a while I hovered between 25 – 29. I wondered if I would ever make it to 30? Or if it would go all the way down to 20? I’m not sure what happened but in the space of about a week my followers doubled. The number stayed the same for a while, then, it seemed like each day it would go down by one. Of course each time it goes down you cant help but think, “I wonder what I tweeted that pushed this person over the edge to hit “unfollow?!”
I know one “problem” I have is that I don’t fit a neat “niche.” I am a Christian, but I found out a while back that that does not necessarily mean that I automatically fit in, or don’t fit in, with certain groups. It seems that I’m “too Christian” for secular groups but “not Christian enough” for others.
Here’s an example. When I was expecting Ginny I was on a pregnancy due date message board. Years after the babies were born the board was still going strong. However, as people left the board along the way, it ended up that most of the board members were not Christian and were single or divorced. There was a lot of what I felt was “bashing” of “marriage” and of “Christians,” and even though comments were made in general, I took them personally.
I finally decided that I needed to find a board with more like-minded Moms and joined a Christian moms board. Unfortunately it was a really unpleasant experience and I did not fit in there, either. I grew up in a very tolerant and open-minded, “mainline” Protestant church and on this board I quickly realized I had been living in a sheltered world. I also figured out why my friends on my other board didn’t like “Christians.” Whoa. It was a very eye-opening experience, and it made me doubly determined not to try to “hide” my faith, and also (by not hiding my faith) to share with others that not all Christians are like the ones I encountered on that message board.
My “online handle” is “MuggleMom.” So far it seems that most of my followers are either other “Mom” bloggers (mostly Christian), or other Harry Potter fans. I don’t think the Christian Mom Bloggers dig my Harry Potter tweets, and I don’t think the Harry Potter fans dig my “Mom” tweets. I could “focus” on just one of these areas in an effort to attract more followers, but, as my handle indicates, these are two things that are very important to me and I don’t want to downplay either one, just to be more popular. I know I don’t agree/just love every Tweet that the people I follow Tweet, so I’m assuming that those who choose to follow me, do as I do and skip over the ones they don’t care for and enjoy the ones they do. (If any of you happen to be reading this, thank you for bearing with me and taking the “bad” with the “good”)! In the meantime, my plan is to keep being “me” and to keep blogging and Tweeting about the things I love.